The reborn dad is hard to be

Chapter 19 Parent-child games

Who deprived children of their creativity? ——Li Zifei

On Saturday, the children are on holiday, but this day is a special parent-child game day organized by Li Tiansheng Kindergarten, not to mention that the kindergarten is still keeping pace with the times.

Early in the morning, Li Zifei brought Li Tianci, Tiansheng and the babbling Li Tianruo to the kindergarten. At this time, most of the parents had already arrived. Looking around, they were all pink, almost all of them were mothers, and few of them were couples. It seems that only Li Zifei's family has three children with his father.

"Mr. Li, you are here." Tiansheng's teacher was a young woman named Dong.

"Mr. Dong, hello. I am very happy to come to participate in the parent-child game, but I am the only one at home, so I have to bring all the children. You don't mind?" Although Li Zifei asked, everyone had already brought , and let her drive them away!

Sure enough, Teacher Dong just shook his head and said: "It's okay, we will have a teacher to help take care of it." After speaking, he directed Li Zifei's family to the reserved position.

Not to mention that there are not many people in the kindergarten. Today, there are quite a lot of students and parents watching together. But fortunately, it is only Tiansheng's class. If the whole school comes, it is estimated that this kindergarten will not be able to let it go.

Li Zifei found a place to do it, and found that there was already a mother next to him, with blond hair and blue eyes, who turned out to be a foreign mother.

"Oh, hello, these are all your children?" Yang's mother spoke standard Mandarin, which surprised Li Zifei.

"Hi, your Chinese is really good." Li Zifei praised.

The foreign mother smiled happily, and said with a very proud look: "Of course, I have been in China for five years, oh, I forgot to introduce, my name is Susan, and this is my daughter Alice."

Li Zifei was infected by Susan's confident appearance, and he also showed a smile. This foreigner is different from the Chinese. If the Chinese would definitely say "where is it" modestly, and Susan would directly admit the praise of others, don't Said it felt pretty good.

"My name is Li Zifei. This is my second son Li Tiansheng, who is in the same class as Alice. This is the eldest son Li Tianci, and this little one is Li Tianruo." He pointed to his own children.

Susan looked at Li Zifei's three children with wolfish eyes, and greeted them separately, which made Li Tianci a little at a loss. It might be the first time a parent greeted him on his own initiative.

Looking at Alice next to Susan, she also has blond hair, but her eyes are dark blue, which may be due to mixed race.

The relationship between Tiansheng and Alice seems to be good. Alice came over to talk actively when she saw Tiansheng, which made Li Zifei very envious. This kid has such a prosperous relationship at such a young age, so he will be fine when he grows up!

After chatting with Susan for a while, I found out that she is from France. She returned to China with her husband who is an international student five years ago, and fell in love with Chinese food deeply, so she stayed.But recently, Susan wanted to send Alice back to France, which made Li Zifei a little confused.

"Zifei, it's not that I don't like taking care of Alice, but I think we don't adapt to the Chinese education method." Susan obviously said it in a rather tactful manner.

Li Zifei also understood and nodded.At this time, the parent-child game had already started. Parents and children were divided into two groups, with Li Zifei and Susan in the second group.But the first thing to start is not the game, but the teacher demonstrates some of the usual class situations to the parents, and what things are taught to the children.

Li Tiansheng and Alice were called to the class display area in the middle, and sat down obediently.

Li Zifei looked at Li Tiansheng who was sitting honestly, and frowned. Li Zifei knew Li Tiansheng's nature better than anyone else. He looked honest and honest, but in fact he had more ghost ideas than anyone else. He even coaxed and lied to him to eat. Yes, I didn't expect this teacher to be quite good, but Li Zifei still feels a little distressed when he thinks about Li Tiansheng, who usually plays happily, sitting in a class like this.

At this moment, Li Zifei heard Susan sigh beside him.

"It turns out that's the case. No wonder Alice said that she was very tired every day when she came home, and she didn't want to go to kindergarten anymore." Susan sighed.

Li Zifei was taken aback for a moment, his own children also have this kind of time, it turns out that everyone is the same.

Susan seemed to have met a bosom friend, so she began to talk about her feelings with Li Zifei.

"Actually, at the beginning, I thought that all kindergartens should be the same, but after a week, I realized that they were really different. I remember that in France, neighbors and friends put several sets of clothes when they sent their children to kindergartens, but ours I have never used it, so I was very curious. I called and asked about it, and found out that children in French kindergartens often get oil paint all over their bodies when they draw, but here children don’t know how to get clothes. Dirty."

Li Zifei was puzzled by Susan's words. Are you angry that you didn't stain your clothes?What's the point?

Without seeing Li Zifei's expression, Susan was obviously immersed in her depressed emotions, and continued: "I once came to the kindergarten and asked them why they restricted my child's personality and intellectual development, but they didn't understand at all. , Gradually, I also understood that the kindergartens here are all like this, and parents demand this from their children, so they always take it for granted, and my words are useless at all.”

This time Li Zifei was really surprised. He didn't expect this Susan to be so persistent, so he asked curiously, "Why do you say that this restricts the child's personality and intellectual development?"

Susan was stunned for a moment, as if she remembered that Li Zifei was also an out-and-out Chinese, she looked at him apologetically, and explained: "Think about it, if the teacher doesn't let the children get their clothes dirty, it will undoubtedly Say to the children, "be careful not to stain the clothes", "don't draw the picture outside", "don't move around" and so on, so that the picture that Alice burned since she was a child can only be drawn in the middle of the paper, and the paint can only be used on the paper. Drawing on paper is a fixed way of thinking, if all education is like this, then how can body painting and graffiti on the wall come out? Her thinking will be confined to this small drawing paper, and she will only focus on herself when she sees things and in front of you, instead of thinking about what the outside world will be like, because she has been educated since she was a child not to see the outside world." Speaking of Susan, she also pointed to the children's paintings on the blackboard newspaper, and then said: "Every day The first time I came to kindergarten I was terrified to see the paintings on the wall, and I was afraid that Alice would be like that."

Li Zifei looked along her hand, but didn't find anything to be afraid of, so he asked suspiciously.

Obviously, Susan hadn't met anyone she could talk to for a long time, so she continued, "Look at these paintings, the sky is blue, the trees are green, and the houses are red."

"What's wrong with that? The sky is indeed blue." Li Zifei was curious.

Susan sighed and said: "You are right, these are indeed right and true, but that is because we are adults, but they are just children. Do you believe that there is a fairy in every child's heart?" , until now I still believe that I really saw fairies when I was a child. All this is because children have their own world and their own creativity. How can you guarantee that when your children grow up, they will not be able to create them? Red sky, blue trees?"

What Susan said made Li Zifei startled with cold sweat dripping down his back. Yes, what is taken for granted in the eyes of adults is unreasonable in the eyes of children.No one knows what the world looks like in the eyes of others, and of course adults don't know what the world looks like in the eyes of children. Isn't it stifling children's creative ability to restrict children with adults' self-viewpoints?

No wonder the people who are educated now are all stuck in the same mold, because they have been restricted from various personality shaping since they were young, and of course they all look the same when they grow up.

The more Li Zifei thought about it, the more afraid he became. He used to think that it was okay to take his time for Sunshine Kindergarten, but now Li Zifei thinks he should hurry up. He doesn't want Li Tiansheng and Tian Ruo to become the kind of nods who only know how to obey other people's orders. insect.

After Mrs. Dong showed how she could make the children so obedient, she started today's highlight, parent-child games.

Parent-child games are very simple, such as balloon relay, where parents run from one side to the other with a ball, pass it to the child, and the child runs around to see which child runs faster.To complete the task book, write some task items on a piece of paper, such as looking for a marked coin, finding a green backpack, and so on.

Of course, the purpose of parent-child games is not only for everyone to play, but also to promote the relationship between parents and children through games, and to cultivate children's certain qualities.

Li Zifei is very willing to play this kind of game. In his last life, he had a tragedy because he didn't get along with his children too much. In this life, he can't wait to play parent-child games every day.But when he participated from the beginning to the end, he discovered that it was not himself or the teacher but the parents who actually killed the children's self-creation.

Some parents are afraid that their children will run slowly, so they take the initiative to take a few steps forward and try to help their children run more. Do you think this is a competition for children or parents? If you can really run, it is better to participate in a sports meeting.This is especially true when looking for things. It is almost like parents dragging their children to search here and there. After the whole game, the children just follow their parents with a note. No wonder the college students who committed suicide a few years later The ones who go home are all accustomed to by their parents. They don't know how to do anything by themselves, and everything is done by their parents. What does a child like this expect him to create?

It is not scary for children not to learn, because they can be taught by teachers, and it is not scary for teachers not to teach, because some parents can add that the real killer is the parents' random education, which is killing children's talents and annihilating their nature.

Seeing all this, Li Zifei felt that his kindergarten could not only be used for educating children.

The author has something to say: write about the age of Li Zifei and his three sons, in fact, sometimes I get messed up when I write...

Li Zifei's 19-year-old Li Tianci, 22-year-old Li Tiansheng, and 25-year-old Li Tianruo.

He was reborn when he was 25 years old. At that time, Li Tianci was six years old. I didn't count the five years old in the article at the beginning...

It is said that their birthdays are coming soon, and there is a three-year age difference between the three children.